KillithFair

I'm into Harry Potter, queer black feminism, post-post alt music, and fashion blogs.

Anonymous asked: You mentioned in a post about radical monogamy, and how being in poly relationships still can be abusive and such. What does radical monogamy mean to you? How do you view monogamy in a decolonized perspective?

prettyofcenter:

yes! you must of read "why i stopped calling myself poly.” that was true for me, and from speaking to many people it’s true for other folks as well. 

i believe that monogamy, like all relationship styles does not have to be possessive, co-dependent, all consuming and fueled by jealousy. i think that people often associate these things with monogamy because we have been taught to accept these in monogamous heteronormative relationships. 

i believe that we all have capacity to learn to listen to our jealousy instead of respond to it (often in abusive ways) in any and all types of relationships. i believe that we all have the capacity to unlearn ownership of our partners especially masculine privileged people. i know it is possible to have interdependent relationships with people who allow you to have a full life outside of the romantic relationship; to have the relationship be a part of the full life instead of an all consuming union. i know it is possible to have fulfilling intimate friendships outside of a romantic relationship while still maintaining intimacy with a partner. 

when it comes to decolonization, i believe that having loving relationships that move away from any type of ownership, possessive model is a good start. i also think that all the forms of oppression we live with on our daily lives needs to be evaluated and talked about in relationships. for me this means having conversations about the power differences that will come up in our dynamic. i make a commitment to the person i am dating to stay accountable about my privileges and ask the same of them. this conversation is ongoing and one that will come up over and over because we are complex people with many layers of power and marginalization. i also make it a point to talk about how to be there for each other when we trigger one another, this has been a hard lesson for me in the past. 

overall i think that having loving relationships where we support each others success without competition, where we allow one another to have fulfilling lives with hobbies and friendships is tip of the decolonized radical monogamy iceberg. i think there is a lot to add to this conversation. thank you for asking this. 

i hope the best for you.
xx fabian

Do people not believe me when I say I have no $$ for shit or do they not understand that certain events exclude people who can’t pay $+10 for events EVERY WEEK?? #paychecktocheck #classisminQTPOCcommunity 

Anonymous asked: you tell crazy stories but has a woman ever tried to kill you ?

fuckboirepellent:

jimmbbo:

perfect-melodies-filthy-wubs:

prettyboyshyflizzy:

This one girl accused me of cheating for having female friends (which i wasnt fucking or flirting with but was just cool friends I dont wanna talk to a bunch of niggas all day i need a female perspective on things) she was screaming at me for 20 mins straight

i dont argue back cause im laid back im just like mhmmm mhmmm looking in my phone checking sports scores and on twitter … so at one point she says “was the pussy atleast good my nigga?” i was like “mmhmm that shit was nice and tight”  all of a sudden i heard silence i look up shes like

image

*this is the moment where i knew i fucked up*

just looks at me like that for like 20 seconds “im like bae im just playing.. im just playing…”  she runs to the kitchen… and starts going in the drawers “im like shawty u needa chill”   im like “im just playing”

she pulls something out all i see was the light beam reflect off it

i get a good look i see this in her hand

im in the couch like

she starts running towards me so i open the door step outside then shut the door from the outside and use all my body weight to hold onto the door knob, She used to run track in highschool so i think she gon catch me so im like nah im not even gon run and get stabbed in the spine

she pulling tryna open it lol im in a project type building on the 12th floor man I was standing there for 43 mins shorty aint have an ounce of quit in her. People walking by laughing hearing her screaming at me

some middle aged lady walked by she was like 50 she was like “mmmmhmmm she caught your ass didnt she”

im like “ma’am help my arms tired”

she was like ahaaa nope “call that bitch you was fucking for help”  and walked into her apt

then shorties mom came out the elevator i was like thank god.. she was like oh lord what u do.. i was like “nothingg ma’am she got a knife i swear i did nothing ” her mom was like “kita put the damn knife down im coming in if u stab me imma beat your ass” i feel the pressure get off the door and i make a run for it i see her try to come chase me but her mom blocks her Im sure i coulda beat usain bolt in a race the way i was running

she was really gon stab me, If her moms aint come i woulda still been standing there holding the door to this day

i’ve never re-blogged something so quick in my life. 

I fuckin love tumblr stories

lmfaoooo

bidyke:

Famous bi people of color (mostly women of color - sorry, I don’t know many famous bi men of color)!

Freddie Mercury: “I play on the bisexual thing because it’s something else, it’s fun… the last thing I want to do is to give people an idea of exactly who I am. I want people to work out their own interpretation of me and my image.”

Skin: “Yes I happen to be female and black and bisexual and these are things that are part of me, but they don’t tell the whole picture, it’s too limiting to put people in boxes like that.”

Azealia Banks: “I’m bisexual, but I’m not trying to be, like, the bisexual, lesbian rapper. I don’t live on other people’s terms.”

Michelle Rodriguez: “I’ve never walked the carpet with anyone, so they wonder: What does she do with her vagina? I’ve gone both ways. I do as I please. I am too fucking curious to sit here and not try when I can. Men are intriguing. So are chicks.”

Tila Tequila: “My whole life I have been judged so that’s nothing new to me so I don’t feel the need to justify my sexuality to anyone! One minute people talked shit about me for being ‘lesbian’ for shooting sexy pictures with other females and now I’m too ‘straight’ come on….who’s really the confused one here? Definitely not me! HA!”

Margaret Cho: “Bisexuality, for me, is probably the right term too (as well as queer).”

Amber Rose: “I’m extremely open with my sexuality. I can be in love with a woman, I can be in love with a man.”

Thandie Newton: “We’re all potentially bisexual; it all depends on your circle, your upbringing, and all kinds of things. Or maybe I’m just talking about myself. I could’ve easily fallen in love with a woman over a man.” 

Frenchie Davis: “I dated men and women, though lesbians weren’t feeling the bisexual thing. Now I’m in love with a woman I think I can be with forever.”

(via fuckyeahlgbtqblackpeople)

thefutureweird:

Junglepussy shares pictures of her younger self for Noisey’s Scrapbook Series

"This is a picture I took on my MacBook and I Photoshopped it myself, and I feel like I did a damn good job. I did my hair myself this day and I remember I was so proud of it. I’ve never done this hairstyle ever again to this day. But every time I look at this picture I feel so proud of it, like, I accomplished that style. I nailed it. What more can I ask for from my life? I have my leopard shirt. Everything is really 360. I really loved leopard print. This just makes me feel like I’m floating in the clouds and the river at the same time. This was back in like 2008 or 2009 during my black hair phase. Then the red came late 09 until 11, and now I’m blond for life like Mary J. Blige. My mother, my whole life, she was blond. It’s pretty much hereditary except for it’s not DNA."


i love her so gawd damn much.

thefutureweird:

Junglepussy shares pictures of her younger self for Noisey’s Scrapbook Series

"This is a picture I took on my MacBook and I Photoshopped it myself, and I feel like I did a damn good job. I did my hair myself this day and I remember I was so proud of it. I’ve never done this hairstyle ever again to this day. But every time I look at this picture I feel so proud of it, like, I accomplished that style. I nailed it. What more can I ask for from my life? I have my leopard shirt. Everything is really 360. I really loved leopard print. This just makes me feel like I’m floating in the clouds and the river at the same time. This was back in like 2008 or 2009 during my black hair phase. Then the red came late 09 until 11, and now I’m blond for life like Mary J. Blige. My mother, my whole life, she was blond. It’s pretty much hereditary except for it’s not DNA."

i love her so gawd damn much.

(via blkmermaid420)

blackfashion:

SZA at Howard Homecoming 2014
Photographed by Jordan Shanks 
JordanShanksDC on IG

so keuuuttttt.

blackfashion:

SZA at Howard Homecoming 2014

Photographed by Jordan Shanks 

JordanShanksDC on IG

so keuuuttttt.

(via afrafemme)